My Love Life
Its been a while...
Well, my last post was on 2015 regarding my engagement and no update since ..
I promise myself to blog more just to keep me sane and i really hope i can.
So here goes, the first post since forever is a midnight rant where i don’t think it’s appropriate for twitter or any other social media cause people don’t really care don’t they.
This post is a special dedication to my bestfriend, lover and amazing husband, Arif.
Never in my teenage life i imagine ill be married at a young age with a highschool friend. Odd i say. 13 years old me will die if she found out about this. I remember the day i first saw Arif, man was he cute i told myself and in time the whole batch. What can i say. If i like someone I don’t intend to hide it. Silly me, i know. I have a crush on him and through time the fling just went off to the extend that I don’t even recall him on certain events that involves us two.
We met again, in 2014 during a mini reunion i hosted at my place and we kinda clicked. I can’t believe im saying this but it truly is as simple as that. I was 21 but boiii i was giving up on love life. I had a break up in 2011 and been single since. Let's just say that love never comes knocking at my door. I had this phase where i was so lonely and relied on my two best buds Shad and Mutt. It was a phase of acceptance that if love comes it will be for marriage. Wow, I’m weird i know. My point is, Arif came when i never expect anything. I really don’t. I though it was just another fling. A blast from the past. But, he proved me wrong.
In the couple of months when we were getting to know each other by texting of course. He insisted on meeting my parents, talks about marriage and getting serious. I was freaked out! Dudee, we were like 21 and haven’t finished our studies. It was too fast. But somehow my parents, grandparents and family accepted him. It’s like they see something more in him that I don’t. They trusted him. They trusted him with me. At that time, what i wish for is a blessing from the parents, both parents of course and we got it. It was like I couldn’t ask for more. They were being supportive and convinced us that we were ready.
26th December 2015. Age 22. We tied the knots. And today, after two years plus of marriage I’ll be forever grateful that i am blessed with an amazing husband. To those who know me, you might know about my short temper, my over excessive control freak, my mood swings, emotionally unstable all sort of crazy stuffs you name it. I got them all. But this guy, accepts me for who i am. Cheering me up, trying so hard to tackle my mood swings and trying soooo hard in getting whatever i want.
In marriage, its not always sunny and jolly, they are days that everything crumbles crushed and gloom but, stick to one another you’ll get thru them. The key is to give and take. Arif is always so good with words. Well i often misinterpreted them but he’ll try so hard to rephrase them just to let me get his exact intention. Girls always have crazy assumptions. Well i know i do. Guys, you have to remember one thing. Girls always want your attention. I mean we do understand that you’ll be busy providing but hey it’s not hard giving her that one text just to keep her going. And girls, if the guy forgot or so busy with works, send them some encouragement. Well guys will never admit it but they too crave for attention. It took me a while to notice that but boiiii, man loves attention and warm thoughts. Spoil them lads. They loved it!
Treat your partner exactly how you want them to treat you. And girls please, speak up! They really can’t think for you. If you want that bag tell him you want it. A simple hint like “hey that’s pretty” won’t work. Drag him into the store and show him what you want. Well provided that your man can afford it. Don’t burden him. Never ever do that. They do so much and the last thing they need is burden of guilt. Always, always ask for something within budget. Its marriage guys and girls not some walk in a park. It takes two to tango. Both have to work hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I know i know im too young to be giving advices. I only speak from experiences. I always end up doing things that i regret but arif is always so forgiving that I sometimes think I don’t really deserve this man.
He works so hard to provide me a good life. Whenever he is home. I would just stare at him while he is sleeping thanking him for everything that he did. Yea, it’s not easy being apart. It is tough. The relationship feels more special cause we don’t spend our 365 days a year long. Most of the days he was working. And yes this post is because i miss him so so much and i was being cold during our call just now. Im sorry Arif. I was being mean and it shouldn’t be like that.
I can’t wait for you to be home. I miss you so so much.
Love, Alia
Well, my last post was on 2015 regarding my engagement and no update since ..
I promise myself to blog more just to keep me sane and i really hope i can.
So here goes, the first post since forever is a midnight rant where i don’t think it’s appropriate for twitter or any other social media cause people don’t really care don’t they.
This post is a special dedication to my bestfriend, lover and amazing husband, Arif.
Never in my teenage life i imagine ill be married at a young age with a highschool friend. Odd i say. 13 years old me will die if she found out about this. I remember the day i first saw Arif, man was he cute i told myself and in time the whole batch. What can i say. If i like someone I don’t intend to hide it. Silly me, i know. I have a crush on him and through time the fling just went off to the extend that I don’t even recall him on certain events that involves us two.
We met again, in 2014 during a mini reunion i hosted at my place and we kinda clicked. I can’t believe im saying this but it truly is as simple as that. I was 21 but boiii i was giving up on love life. I had a break up in 2011 and been single since. Let's just say that love never comes knocking at my door. I had this phase where i was so lonely and relied on my two best buds Shad and Mutt. It was a phase of acceptance that if love comes it will be for marriage. Wow, I’m weird i know. My point is, Arif came when i never expect anything. I really don’t. I though it was just another fling. A blast from the past. But, he proved me wrong.
In the couple of months when we were getting to know each other by texting of course. He insisted on meeting my parents, talks about marriage and getting serious. I was freaked out! Dudee, we were like 21 and haven’t finished our studies. It was too fast. But somehow my parents, grandparents and family accepted him. It’s like they see something more in him that I don’t. They trusted him. They trusted him with me. At that time, what i wish for is a blessing from the parents, both parents of course and we got it. It was like I couldn’t ask for more. They were being supportive and convinced us that we were ready.
26th December 2015. Age 22. We tied the knots. And today, after two years plus of marriage I’ll be forever grateful that i am blessed with an amazing husband. To those who know me, you might know about my short temper, my over excessive control freak, my mood swings, emotionally unstable all sort of crazy stuffs you name it. I got them all. But this guy, accepts me for who i am. Cheering me up, trying so hard to tackle my mood swings and trying soooo hard in getting whatever i want.
In marriage, its not always sunny and jolly, they are days that everything crumbles crushed and gloom but, stick to one another you’ll get thru them. The key is to give and take. Arif is always so good with words. Well i often misinterpreted them but he’ll try so hard to rephrase them just to let me get his exact intention. Girls always have crazy assumptions. Well i know i do. Guys, you have to remember one thing. Girls always want your attention. I mean we do understand that you’ll be busy providing but hey it’s not hard giving her that one text just to keep her going. And girls, if the guy forgot or so busy with works, send them some encouragement. Well guys will never admit it but they too crave for attention. It took me a while to notice that but boiiii, man loves attention and warm thoughts. Spoil them lads. They loved it!
Treat your partner exactly how you want them to treat you. And girls please, speak up! They really can’t think for you. If you want that bag tell him you want it. A simple hint like “hey that’s pretty” won’t work. Drag him into the store and show him what you want. Well provided that your man can afford it. Don’t burden him. Never ever do that. They do so much and the last thing they need is burden of guilt. Always, always ask for something within budget. Its marriage guys and girls not some walk in a park. It takes two to tango. Both have to work hard to maintain a healthy relationship. I know i know im too young to be giving advices. I only speak from experiences. I always end up doing things that i regret but arif is always so forgiving that I sometimes think I don’t really deserve this man.
He works so hard to provide me a good life. Whenever he is home. I would just stare at him while he is sleeping thanking him for everything that he did. Yea, it’s not easy being apart. It is tough. The relationship feels more special cause we don’t spend our 365 days a year long. Most of the days he was working. And yes this post is because i miss him so so much and i was being cold during our call just now. Im sorry Arif. I was being mean and it shouldn’t be like that.
I can’t wait for you to be home. I miss you so so much.
Love, Alia
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